The Spark. What is it?
No, he’s not a famous author (hi Nicholas Sparks).
It’s a classic example of two deep relationship issues :
- A lame excuse to leave someone hanging
- An example of a hopeless romantic trying to find something that doesn’t exist.
One is the worst kind, which I don’t want to talk about. Let’s look at the second one.
In life, we’ve indeed been conditioned by the world to believe such a spark exists. It’s in every bloody romance movie… but the truth is, if you’re looking for a brilliant, passionate spark in every relationship you form – you’re going to end up alone. You’re looking for something that doesn’t exist, and in doing so create a barrier between yourself and those that could make you happy : because that’s all the true spark really is. Making someone happy.
As humans struggling through a hostile universe, all we really want is to feel happy. To feel good. Not to be consumed by sparks of insanity. So when you tell someone who makes you laugh, and makes you happy, that there’s no spark between you two –then I think you’re making a mistake.
In a relationship, all you ultimately offer to another person is a warm heart. It’s not about your body (well, maybe that’s why there’s no ‘spark’) or your attitudes and values. It’s about giving a fraction of your identity to a fraction of theirs and together amalgamating. To create what? A simple form of unified happiness.
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