Thursday, 30 October 2014

I Wish Mindy Kaling Gave Me Permission To Dream Much Earlier In Life & Back Door Bragging Through the Front Door

My heart is ablaze. No, cliché, my heart is working at maximum capacity,  providing infinite voltage into an electrical, nervous, giddy smile. There is a slight dusty smell in the air and the dark red velvet curtains are shoddily drawn such that I could peep at the front row audience. But, I don’t have time for them because I am too busy being a bossy 7 year old and checking if everyone knows their lines. Yes, those were the days. Those were happier days.

The funny thing is, I always knew those would be the happiest days of my life. I hoped, but never thought, I would get to write, direct and act in shows all at once ever again – so I wrung the happiness out of each skit inch by inch until the joy was tucked away safely in the corner of my soul. It was true, however, that I wouldn’t grow much into the spotlight as I would have, had I been more confident.

I think that confidence might have been given the jumpstart it needed had I seen Mindy Kaling. She was amazing for me. A woman, my own race, complexion, body shape (okay, she has bigger boobs than me, whatever) actually succeeding in front of a Western camera would have shaken my little box and made me realize I have the talent to be who I could have been; I would have let myself dream things I never dared to entertain.

Instead, when I became involved in Drama at a High school level, I graciously bowed out and dedicated myself to excelling at the theoretical side. Oh, no, don’t get me wrong, I would average in the 90s on both practical and theory. But although I was good at both, I was scared to invest too much into the practical part because I knew I wouldn’t get far with it. High school made me realize there were so many people better than me. Although I could make people laugh, I couldn’t make them swoon with my beauty; nor could I fit into a dress below size 10. It was crushing, on reflection, that I let those little things get the better of me.

I think if I had more tangible evidence of women being themselves and still being successful in entertainment that I would have felt a whole lot more confident about the situation. I saw local females bleaching their skin, taking pills to get fairer and everyone around me just being thinner than me. I was chubby, yes, but it wasn’t because I ate a tub ‘o lard on the regular, hardly, but rather it had more to do with repercussions of some treatment I had undergone as a child. Niggling little things like that can really leave an impression on your mind.

I guess I’m full of excuses, as well. I mean…rather an excuse than a failed attempt? Actually, that’s probably the most pathetic sentence I’ve ever written, hah!


But it’s okay. I know I was great. I was a top 10 finalist for the Bruce Piper Award, an annual award by the Speech & Drama Society of South Africa. I wish I would have had the faith in myself to not need a Mindy Kaling to show me the way. But, now, I am so happy and grateful that she is around. I’m so happy Indra Nooyi is the CEO of Pepsi. I’m so happy that Delphine Govender started Perpetua. All around me I see these amazing women growing into someone I would like to become – but I could never mirror them, no. Rather, they remind me of needing to be the best person I can be… and hopefully I can let some little kid out there realize she has the right to be the writer, director and actor of her own life, too. 

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